Why do we all? Why is it always women's fault?
When I held a webinar "Faithful husband - a dream or reality? How to forget about male infidelity in fifteen steps forever," one of the listeners in the chat bitterly wrote: "Why do we all? Why is it always women's fault?? Why we should be in the business of repairing family relationships and men shouldn't?"
The other answered, "Because when we sow the seed, the whole ear grows..." 7) The seventh level is infidelity."
Very precise wording.
Women have tremendous power! A woman can make an eagle into a goat. But we can do the reverse as well.
The theory goes that mentally a woman is 6-7 times stronger than a man.
You think that's great, that's lucky? But you have to know how to manage that power!
Imagine a spetsnaz with a flamethrower at the edge of the forest. I just wanted to fry a skewer! He burned a whole grove. And all he did was give him a light! And the taiga is already ablaze.
So do we. We just don't understand our own strength. And that's why we don't know how to handle it properly. And all she did was spit, but she burned out half a hectare of her husband's soul with fire. And then complains - how dry and unkind he is!
Remember how hurt you were when your lover said something hurtful. For example, that the soup is too salty again. And even though it's three times true! But when you tell your husband - it hurts him all the more.
So when a woman is only in the 1st stage of infidelity - adultery in the mind - and just said myself - could have found a better one! That's because he snores as, and the belly has gone, and earns less than neighbor Vasya - the husband immediately gets indulgence for the 6 th stage: as if the wife allowed him to choose an object of attraction.
And if a wife takes a step to the 2nd stage - cheating in feelings - that is, letting her feelings cool down to criticism of her husband, especially in the presence of others - then her husband already inwardly gets permission from her to physically cheat - for if cheating had 12 stages, it would drop him to the 12th, but there are only 8.
Here are the rest:
3) The third stage - is to flirt, already flirting actually with the opposite sex. Infidelity in behavior.
4) The next step is to concentrate on a particular person, to choose an attractive person.
5) The fifth level is to talk to the object of your attention alone, to talk about mutual love.
6) The sixth level is the decision to become intimate. The decision is made. The bets are off, gentlemen!
7) The seventh level of infidelity - to begin to realize the solution: a very strong effort for the sake of sex with the object of pleasure. Finding shelter. To arrange his alibi.
8 ) Cheating on a physical level: "tumbling" in bed.
The man is sometimes here just after the woman has passed the second stage. He gets invisible permission from her to cheat. Not taking your husband at face value is giving him permission to cheat. It's simple.
"It's too much!", cries the woman, "I was only sarcastic, after all! And he cheated on me!"
Tell it to the forest, a hectare of which was burned to death by a single match. The arsonist isn't being charged for the box! And for the hectare.
And the forest has no choice whether to burn or not. If the forest is still full of sap, still very green, it can stand a match or two. But the third or thirtieth one, having dried it up, burns it all the same. And if it's not a match? And if it's a flamethrower shot?
A relationship has no choice whether to stand or not if we destroy it.
And it doesn't matter if we don't know our own strength. Just as it doesn't matter if the fishermen who left the fire unextinguished in the wind understand the danger. The sanctuary burned down.
But if we use that power correctly..
Fire doesn't just burn the forest. It's used to cook food and make steel and fire pots.
It's in our power to give our wings back to our husband.
Gratitude.
Acceptance.
Respect.
The three magical tools a woman has.
We must learn to use our power for peaceful purposes. Not to burn my own house with my own fire, but to bake pies and heat my home.